If there are signs youre thought of as a fling and not serious-commitment potential, it should be addressed early on before either person gets hurt. Of course, theres nothing wrong with having a fling, if both people are on board, but one-sided feelings are never a good thing, moving forward.

How do you know if it is just a fling?

While being spontaneous can be great for a relationship, if youre unable to make actual, solid plans with your S.O., it could mean youre seen as a fling, or a plan B. “If the person you are seeing never wants to make proper plans with you, but only wants to text/talk/message/see you at random, spontaneous times (ex.